Pretending to be normal

Okay I know that Frank and I pretend to be normal most days but things have now reached their illogical conclusion.  We have spent what seems like months packing – okay Frank has – but we kept trying to pretend that we were just living in our house like normal.  All that went out the window today.  We are now T-3 days until closing and we can’t just box up the stuff we don’t feel like using over the next few days.  It’s time to get serious.

And serious is where we are.  The bathrooms have been packed and cleaned out.  One bed is in parts and another is slated for disassembly tomorrow. The final files have been placed in a box and my desk is also ready to be taken apart. After spending all day in the most miserable heat on Saturday and Sunday  wrapping and taping and running to the Uhaul store for more boxes so we could wrap and tape some more, we had a brief respite yesterday that came in the guise of a cookout with friends.  It was a lovely break where we pretended everything was normal – even if we did spend way more time trying to explain Wegmans than could ever be considered normal for KC! Even on departure, we said “See you later” rather than “Goodbye” cuz it felt more normal and delayed the tears at least for a short time.

So now we are out of social engagements, out of time, and out of excuses.  Today the kitchen had to be packed.  Still trying to use up as much food as possible, we started with a homemade quiche Lorraine (cuz that’s normal!) and then as another impossibly hot day began in earnest, we did a trial run for the drive to NY and packed up the cars exactly as it will be when we pull out of the driveway for the last time:  suitcases for vacation, air bed, kitchen necessities, dog crate and bedding, and an inordinate number of boxes of booze. Hmmm….

Then everything that was left in the house got packed.  Well mostly.  I can’t believe how much stuff was hidden in the kitchen cupboards!  Frank had packed a great deal of it already but left out dishes and glasses and pans and appliances we are still using.  All of it had to find it’s way into some kind of container.  It’s time to stop pretending that we live here and that we’ll actually cook anything.  (Foreshadowing:  the grill isn’t packed yet.  🙂 )

Away went the bread machine, Kitchenaid mixer, toaster oven, frying pans, cookie sheets, bundt pans (really, who makes bundt cakes anymore!), knives, cutlery, plates, bowls, mugs, and anything that was hidden in a nook or cranny in the kitchen.  When that got boring, we’d wander into the living room and take apart lamps and clocks.  At one point Frank noted that by packing all the lamps, we would now have no light in the living room.  I looked around at the bare walls, stacks of boxes, and huddles of misplaced furniture and pointed out that the room wasn’t usable anyway.  After hours of packing, we were still reflexively trying to be normal and act like we would actually use that room again.

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All our kitchen “necessities” less the plastic wine glasses already in use.

Six hours and close to a dozen boxes later, we called it a day and rescued the cargo from the steaming hot cars.  Our dry run netted us the realization that you never have as many boxes as you need and there are always things that suddenly appear after the last box is closed.  I have officially designated one of the rubbermaid tubs from the garage the “flotsam and jetsam” box for the plethora of misplaced items which will suddenly appear when the movers arrive.  We are now squatters in what will be someone else’s house in 3 days with only the bare necessities for eating the inevitable take out. For one last night though we’ll pretend just a little and cook our KC strips on the grill. And eat them off of paper plates.  That seems almost normal.

Blue lines, bad beef, and Beethoven: anecdotes from a winter weekend

Sometimes my kids, or other mildly interested parties, will ask about our lives in KC. I thought some tales from this weekend would be somewhat illustrative. It was more active than many but not frenetic and does show some different aspects of little city life.

Our original plans for Friday night involved the symphony but we decided to postpone that event and instead hit the local minor league hockey game. The son of Frank’s friend Charlie was helping to warble “God Bless America” between periods so it seemed like a good excuse to go. WeIMG_1488 went to one game last year when the Missouri Mavericks were an independent minor league team – at least I think that was the status. I couldn’t otherwise imagine why there were many 30+ year olds with 70’s porn mustaches on the ice. (Have you seen Slapshot? Not far from that.)

The current team is different. I don’t know when they made the arrangement but it seems that Mavericks are now the farm team for the farm team for the NY Islanders. Young 20 somethings named Tyler and Brandon are skating like they have something to prove and the hockey wasn’t all that bad. I’m more accustomed to NHL and college games though so there were some stark differences. First, I’m pretty sure no NHL team anywhere has hosted a “princess night” where half the attendees are young girls in tiaras, tutus, and girl scout sashes. They shrieked at every opportunity and were disappointed that they didn’t get to sing all of every song from Frozen. (I’m also pretty certain that no NHL team has ever broadcast so many Disney tunes between plays. Ever.)

The crowd was more into the game than I have seen be the case in the pros. In that way it was more akin to a college game. Like in college games, the crowd liked to respond to announcements being made over the PA system. For example, when the opposing team has a member leave the penalty box, the announcer states “Blah blah team is now full strength.” At a college game the crowd response is “That’s debatable”; at the Mavericks game, “They still suck.” Same sentiment, fewer syllables? But the tuneless elementary school got their time in the spotlight and the home team won so it was an enjoyable evening all around.

Saturday was busy with typical and atypical errands from grocery shopping and hair cuts to massages. Yum. Then it was date night and we decided to hit a local steak house. I had peaked at the menu on line and saw many GF options and comments on Open Table about how it was a good place for special occasions (with prices in line with Ruth’s Chris for steaks) so we put on our Date Night Duds and off we went.

To a strip mall in the burbs. (First clue?) It looked nice enough but when we went in, we were pretty much the only ones NOT in jeans. In fact, there was more camouflage than twill and lots of tattoos and T-shirts involving second amendment rights.  (Second clue?) We got some pretty mediocre food for pretty outrageous prices. The place was really busy though so I have to think that we made poor choices but I know that we won’t make choices at that establishment again. As a capper to the evening, we wandered across the parking lot to the local sports fan store looking for a Royals magnet for my car and the teenager in the shop commented on how fancy we were dressed. {sigh}

On to Sunday, yoga, pancakes and church in the morning and then off to the Kaufmann Center in the afternoon.IMG_1493 Yes, we are symphony subscribers. This means that when we changed our plans for Friday night, we could swap our tickets for the Sunday matinee. It definitely had a different vibe than the Friday night performances. Drinks at intermission weren’t quite as appealing as it was 3 in the afternoon; we helped to bring the average age of the audience down instead of up; and the musicians were more casually dressed – suits instead of tuxes for example. Regardless, the performance was lovely and it was a great way to spend the afternoon before heading home to our Sunday dinner of grilled lamb chops with roasted sprouts and potatoes. With a lovely red wine of course… from California. The local wines we’ve tried don’t quite merit such a descriptor but we’ll keep looking. And when we find one I’ll make sure to tell you all about it.

Travelers and traveling

Just as we return from our holiday sojourn around Great Britain, the fall conference and meeting season starts.  For me this meant one week to remember what I do in my office before leaving the office again.  First destination: Houston.  A conference and set of meetings that we affectionately refer to as “the poke my eye out with a fork” meetings.  This installment did not disappoint.  My conference presentation rocked – thanks to the participation of my office12039405_847588595355600_1021846917256066242_nmate Dave the minion – and then I got to sit in room full of generally intelligent people listening to a consultant discuss how he can fix all our woes.  {sigh}  The highlight of the trip though was a dinner with some friends from NoVA who had headed to the Lone Star state at the same time as we were packing up for KC.  Dinner out with Mark and Beth was wonderful and we got to share tales of new adventures as well as share instances of the joy and pain of watching the kids grow up and move on.  It made the humidity of Houston and the turgidity of the consultant nearly bearable.

But I was not the only one on the move!  While I was languishing in the confines of a branch conference room, many of my friends and colleagues from my previous life in DC had descended on KC for a conference of their own.  I was sad not to be able to be there to show them the best parts of my new home (or be with some of them at the K when they watched the Royals clinch the division for the first time in 30 years — grr!).  I was happy though that one person stayed behind to hang out with me.  Theresa and I met several years ago at just such a conference and were lucky enough to only be two hours apart.  So we could have visits back and forth between DC and Richmond – and now she was visiting KC!

We only really had one full day so we had to make the most of it.  After I arrived back at KCI from Houston, we picked her up and Friday evening was spent in the ‘hood.  She got the walking our of Brookside: up the trolley trail for dinner at Julian and then some Foo’s Frozen Custard before wandering back home.  Saturday’s goal was to do as much KC as we could in one day.  We had a leisurely breakfast on the back deck – pancakes and bacon taste better al fresco – and then it was off to the City Market.  The farmers market was in full swing and we stocked up on goodies from kale and tomatoes to bison jerky and lavender.  Then it was oFullSizeRenderff to the Plaza Art Fair where hundreds of artists stall and  food stands take over the plaza.  The sun was shining and the day was glorious.  We had poutine – Kansas City style so there was BBQ involved – and wandered through the crowds, chatting with artists along the way.

To escape the glorious but relentless sun, we wandered to the Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art to see how some of the famous people did art stuff.  I had been to the sculpture garden before but never inside the museum.  I was pleased to see a decent collection of Pissaro in the impressionist room.  He really is one of my favorites. Once we cooled down and felt cultured and refreshed, it was back home to grab the picnic and the appropriate garb and then – Destination Kaufmann stadium! We hadn’t failed to notice that every time we take a visitor to the K, the Royals lose. Has to be coincidence, we thought.  So with cheese, charcuterie, veggies and hummus, we made our way to the HyVee view section (read: cheap seats) to watch the Royals take on the Cleveland Indians.  And lose. So much for coincidence.

And so our full KC day was done and it was off to the airport early the next morning.  We had just enough time to get the house in order and get some chores done when another visitor phoned to say he had just landed in KC and how about a drink?  Peter and I worked together in DC, pretty closely in the couple of years before I left, and had become happy hour buddies.  So it was back to the Westin to pick up another visitor.  We had dinner on the back deck (our favorite dining spot these days) – a gourmet feast of burgers, potato salad, kale with bacon and local pickles.  Throw in some cheap red wine and couple of glasses of Virginia port with some good conversation and you have a complete evening.

So come visit – who knows what we’ll have planned!!!

Voluntary visitors

Last weekend we had a special treat:  a visitor who came to KC just to see us!  Don’t get me wrong – I love it when people stop by because they are in KC on business or passing through on their way somewhere else.  But for the first time someone who doesn’t share my DNA came to KC on purpose!

Erin and I have been friends for 30 years – since our junior year in college – and we have traveled the globe together and she did me the honor of being a bridesmaid when Frank and I got married.  It had been far too long since we had seen each other (10+ years?) so when I got the FB message asking if I minded company for Memorial Day weekend, I was elated.

So the planning began:  how to best spend 3 days catching up with an old friend and still enjoying what KC has to offer?  Erin arrived from Denver late on Friday night (after many travel travails!) and we slept in on Saturday.  Lots of pancakes and bacon fueled us for a trip to the River Market and an an exploration of the early farmer’s market offerings.  Then a trip north to Weston – a lovely little Missouri town with quaint shops, a passable winery, a local distillery, and a brewery that produces hard root beer – sold!

IMG_1127 We wandered the shops – lots of local art work and other interesting collections of stuff, including the storefront for McCormick Distilling,the oldest continuously operating distillery in the U.S. and maker of 360 Vodka and other liquors. A few samples led to the purchase of some whiskey, mandarin vodka, and Ke-Ke beach – a lime cream liqueur.  Think key lime Baily’s…. Yum! Then we wandered to the Pirtle Winery – it’s in an old church building, the tastings are free and the wine is palatable.  Erin had several bottles shipped back to Denver and we replenished our supply of port.  A final stop at O’Malley’s Pub – retail outlet for Weston Brewing Company – and we found ourselves in an old beer celler style room (down several flights of stairs from street level with no windows and thick stone walls) where we could watch live music and enjoy Row Hard Root Beer on draft.  And so we did.

Emerging back to the light, we found ourselves in the middle of a local car show and Frank was in heaven chatting with local car enthusiasts about their cars. His favorite was the hand assembled, air-cooled diesel rat rod truck.   I thought it was butt ugly but what do I know.  We finished the evening with the obligatory barbecue dinner: Jack Stack’s take out of ribs and burnt ends, complete with cheesy corn.  A few drinks made with our Weston purchases and a viewing of Stripes put day 1 in the books.

On Sunday, the weather forecast was of utmost concern as we had tickets to the Royals game.  IMG_1131The prognoses did not look good but we waited until the last minute to pick up snacks and head to the K.  The rain held off long enough to get the game in but my boys in blue were not successful.  They lost to the Cardinals and unfortunately we were surrounded by St. Louis fans so it felt more like we were the visiting team rather than the home team.  Not a typical experience at the K unfortunately.

The evening plans included dinner at Tannin – a favorite of ours.  Four course dinner with wine pairings.  The sommelier reminds me of a physics post doc at Berkeley – jeans, loping stride, Birkenstocks – but his recommendations are always spot on and we rolled out of the restaurant well fed and watered.

And just in time to see the fireworks from the nearby Celebration at the Station – the annual Memorial Day outdoor symphony performance at Union Station.  We decided to pass on the concert in the rain with 50,000 others and headed instead to the Green Lady Lounge – a KC jazz bar and institution.  Unfortunately, most of the rest of KC (and some Cardinals fans!) headed there as well and while the music was wonderful, the crowds were a bit hard to handle.  There were only 2 bartenders who were run off their feet.  A couple of drinks and some great jazz and it was time to call it a day.

Day 3 started sunny for a change!  After breakfast we decided to do a tour de fountains. IMG_0589 KC is “the city of fountains” so the top went down on the convertible and we drove all over into parts of the city that we had never been to.  Unfortunately, the clouds began to assemble and we decided to head to the Plaza for some lunch.  Apparently you can’t say you’ve been to KC until you’ve been to the Plaza so we checked that box.  We emerged from lunch to sunshine again and so off to the Nelson-Atkins Sculpture garden to get our Vitamin D and some culture.  A quick stop a the grocery store was next to prepare for dinner.

And what could possibly make the weekend any better?  More visitors!  And from Colorado!  MoIMG_1127 and Brett were driving their “Rolling Palace” east for vacation and KC was a logical stop.  We hadn’t seen them for years either and so fabulous KC steaks on our back deck were enjoyed by all before Mo and Brett headed back to their sumptuous home on wheels and we prepared to say goodbye to Erin at an inhumane hour the next morning.

So now we have some experience with non-family visitors and we are ready for more!  Thank you Erin for making the effort to come visit and being patient with our new tour guide status – it was wonderful to see you and be able to spend time catching up.  And show off our new hometown (which Erin declared delightful and surprising).

Who’s next?  We’re ready!